“Why are women always bawlin’ about something?” Sound familiar? I think it’s a pretty common question among men. Most men think that women are just too emotional, too high-strung. I mean, really! Who can keep up with their constantly changing emotions, right?? Women change their moods faster than guys change their socks, don’t they? (Guys, please tell me you do that, often, though!)
While it’s true that most women are extremely emotional creatures, I think there are some occasions and circumstances that tend to throw some women overboard. Circumstances like a death in the family or an accident can obviously, and understandably, be an instant mood-killer. Maybe it’s even some sort of chemical imbalance brought on by life-changing events like having a baby or starting menopause.
But WHY are women so stinkin’ emotional about everything? Do you know someone who cries at the drop of a hat? We all do. There is no real, logical, one-click answer to the question. It just is what it is. Sure, women can always find reasons to keep smiling . There is obvious logic to it, in that it boosts morale and keeps partners and children from suffering an early, painful demise! But sometimes, even the effort of simply being happy can be too much for some women to handle.
It isn’t that women don’t WANT to be happy. That idea is absolutely ludicrous! Of course women want to be happy. It isn’t because we’re out to make the rest of the world suffer right along with us in our misery, either. (Well, ok – unless you’ved ticked us off! Then WATCH OUT!) It’s simply because our worlds revolve around emotions.
Think about it for a minute. A woman gets a new hairstyle and asks her partner if he likes it. He shrugs, nods, and walks away – thinking that he gave an adequate answer. He answered her, right? He really DID like the new hair! But, because there was no verbal approval, no emotional connection from HIM about the new hairstyle, the woman is instantly upset and annoyed. She may even go so far as to think it’s ugly and change it. At first glance, her emotions may seem egotistical and illogical. But, really, they’re not. She just needs to feel approval in the way she feels approval, period. Because she’s relying more on emotion than logic.
Because women are sooooo super sensitive to their emotions, it can LITERALLY be a killer when they feel overwhelmed with daily tasks. It’s logical that they shouldn’t feel that way. Many women do ‘that much and more’, right? But, if a woman gets it in her head, and her heart, that she has to do all ten things on her list, and she falls short one or two – to her, that’s failure. She may, logically, give it 110%, but the one or two things she didn’t do will be crushing, because she emotionally set herself up to do all ten.
I don’t know if it’s the Virgo in me, or what, but I’m HUGELY task-oriented. I’m constantly needing to be ‘on the go’ doing something. Have I known failure and resulting depression from it? You bet. I’m probably a bit of a poster child for it. I set goals for myself, and when I don’t reach them, I admittedly ‘lose it’. It’s nobody’s fault. It may not even be MY fault that I didn’t reach my goal. But, I take it very, very personally and I get depressed about it down to my core.
I think I’m probably like most women in that regard. We have so many expectations regarding family, work, civic duties, blah blah blah…and we want SO badly to be good at WHATEVER we do, that when we fall short, or don’t feel like we “measure up” or get the approval we think we deserve, we fall apart. It may very well not be logical to expect that all ten things on the list be completed. And, it’s certainly not logical to fall apart about it. But again, most women don’t deal with life using rules of logic. Our truths come from our emotions. Right, wrong, or indifferent, it is what it is because that’s how we feel about it!
So, what to do about it? Step into the World Of Emotions, occasionally. Contrary to popular belief, a lot of women think it’s kind of sexy when a guy cries. Not ALL the time. Let’s not get carried away, here! But, no woman expects a man to be stone-faced all the time. Just like it’s alright for a woman to find logic in some things, it’s just as okay for a man to show emotions on occasion. Again, for a woman, laughter and feeling good about a situation, are truly the best ways to keep her from getting overwhelmed and down on herself, her life, her world – and getting depressed about it.